Is it possible to have a big, beautiful wedding with a small wedding budget?
A modern day wedding seems like it's almost the equivalent of an inauguration ceremony.
According to CNN, the average wedding cost $29,000. I'll let you catch your breath!
Often times, whoever is funding the wedding finds themselves investing in a wedding, not a marriage. It's important to be cautious that you aren't putting so much into the wedding ceremony and reception that it becomes your sole focus.
This post is going to detail how we were able to have a beautiful wedding on a small budget by keeping wedding costs down, and hopefully give some ideas for how you can keep your special day affordable.
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Let me just say this -- you don't have to have a small wedding to keep costs down. It's frustrating when the only suggestion offered for an affordable wedding is, "well just cut the number of guests in half!" We had a beautiful wedding with just over 200 wedding guests. However, we were only able to make it possible because we had a ton of help from friends and family in various ways that will be outlined in this post.
In this post, I'll touch on the major money spending areas, and then in the summary below you'll be able to see costs for everything (including those I don't specifically break down).
Hopefully by the end, you realize that is it possible to have a beautiful wedding on a budget.
First, if you are planning a wedding or helping plan a wedding, the first step is to sit down with the parents (if applicable) and determine a wedding budget.
When my husband and I started planning our wedding, we spoke with both sets of parents about who would pay for what. Next, my parents gave us a clear budget and let us know that anything over that we would be footing the bill for.
It's imperative that you have a clear, agreed upon total budget. To determine your total overall budget, simply add together the max amount each party is willing and has agreed to contribute (if applicable).
I recommend keeping all your wedding savings and contributions in a separate savings account. Depending on the length of the engagement, it may be beneficial to keep the funds in a
high-yield savings account,
which allows you the flexibility of withdrawing funds whenever and earning the highest possible interest.
I designed a free wedding budget checklist that you can instantly download by subscribing below! This template makes it easy to set your overall wedding budget, keep track of budgeted vs. actual cost, and determine how much money you have left for each wedding budget category. This way, you know exactly where things are at any given time- making for a stress-free wedding planning process!
You can use these budget templates to set aside money every month for your wedding, or even plan for your honeymoon!
You MUST keep track of your wedding expenses if you want to stay on budget.
Weddings get expensive really fast and it's easy to forget about little expenses here and there that come up!
While the total dollar amount will vary couple to couple, typically the wedding budget category percent breakdown doesn't vary that much. In other words, the bulk of the wedding budget goes to the same categories.
Below is a chart showing a typical wedding budget breakdown. This may be a useful guide and good starting point for creating your own personalized wedding budget:
The best way to determine how much of your wedding budget you should allocate to each category is to determine your priorities first, and allocate the bulk of the budget to them.
Keep in mind this chart is based on the average couple -- your unique situation could look very different (or very similar) depending on your wants, needs, and total budget.
Our food was provided a family members seafood restaurant. The total cost of the food was right around $2,500.
We used plastic plates that look real to serve the food on, my mom got all the plates and cups for about $50 total.
We were able to save on the food because my aunt owns the restaurant, so HUGE, HUGE thank you to her for blessing us in that way.
For dessert, we had cupcakes for the guests, and we had the wedding cake pictured below. We had this made by someone my aunt knows, and it cost right around $100.
Pictured above is the dessert table with all the cupcakes!
Most of the decorations that are on the table came from my parents house.
As far as beverages go, we decided to do free beer and wine to keep the cost down a little bit.
Since we had a lot of family & friends traveling from far away, we didn't want to do a cash bar as I have always felt that those are a little tacky. However, we had to forego an open bar to save money and stick to our budget.
We also saved money because we were allowed to return any kegs that were not opened!
The final bill for the alcohol was around $925.
For the rehearsal dinner, we kept it to a small group at a nice restaurant.
We got married at an old marina style building right on the ocean that has a wood plank floor with the ocean underneath. You could hear the waves underneath the floor while in the venue, so it was pretty unique.
The cost of the venue for the wedding day was $600, and we ended up renting the venue for the day before the wedding as well so that we would have plenty of time to set up, and that cost an additional $200. Thus, total cost of the venue was $800.
In order to have the venue we wanted, we had to change our wedding date from a weekend to a week day. This provided huge cost savings for us, cutting $1,250 off the price! Additionally, because our wedding was in the winter, we got off-season pricing. The time of year you choose for your wedding will have a big impact on the price. It actually worked out great, because we got married on December 29 and many people have time off from work during the week of Christmas anyway.
We got a spectacular venue at an amazing price, and all it took was a little creativity and imagination to turn it into a wedding venue!
Here is the before on setup day:
Luckily, with a ton of helping hands we were able to transform it into a venue fit for a ceremony and reception.
It was BEAUTIFUL.
The lights, tables, and chairs were all included in the price of the venue.
You CAN find a place that cheap, you just have to look and be patient and maybe make some compromises!
We had a great wedding photographer! She came with an assistant and was there for the whole day, from start to finish.
The professional photographer cost $2,100.
This is obviously one of the biggest expenses for the whole day!
Most of the décor for my wedding was either borrowed or came from the thrift store that my mom works at, so everything was under $5-$10. The only items that were over that amount was the flowers and a few bigger decorations. The décor was mainly diy projects that my mom and grandma put together.
Because we had the wedding ceremony and wedding reception at the same place, we only had to pay for decorations for one venue.
Some of the diy projects we did included:
Almost all of the things in this little setup came from decorations from my parents house, so they were all free.
All pallets we used came from a stack we had outside the dairy, so free as well.
We also had a few family friends who had wedding decorations from their children's weddings, so they let us use their stuff as well. This was mostly signs and different fabrics
Here is a picture of the bar/drinks area:
The bar pictured above was free- my dad & brother built it out of wood we had laying around at the dairy.
The signs you see in the picture were borrowed from a family friend, so completely free.
We used a combination of fake flowers and real flowers to save money!
The gorgeous arrangement above was made by a lady from my church, using all fake flowers! She did not want to be paid, but we of course gave her a little gift for putting this together.
There was another arrangement just like the one pictured above, and the two wine barrels they sat on were $75 each.
The rest of our wedding flowers came from Costco, we ordered babies breath and white roses, for a total cost of $250!
Sam's Club offers bridal arrangements for super cheap and bulk flowers for a very low price!
You can see my bouquet here, I kept it really simple!
This is also what the bridesmaids bouquets looked like, and many of the white roses & babies breath was put in wine bottles and set up for décor all around the venue.
Nice flowers don't have to be super expensive!
Considering the average cost a bride spends on flowers for her big day is $2,100 ( According to a survey by The Knot), I'd say we did pretty darn good!
One of my splurges (priorities) on my wedding day was my dress. I dreamed about my dress from the day we got engaged! I was responsible for paying for my own wedding dress, which cost about $1,100.
I did not regret this expense, I absolutely LOVED my dress and wouldn't have traded it for a cheaper one.
The ceremony programs and guest book were made by my sister-in-law. She is quite creative and crafty and had such great ideas! This was a HUGE help. She is so giving of her time, and I so appreciate her. The only cost for the programs would be the cardstock paper they were printed on, the ink to print, and the pictures that we ordered that she cut out & glued on the programs. The only cost for the guest book would be the cardstock paper and the pictures, my sister-in-law used a lot of stamps and craft paper she already had on hand!
The microphones, speakers and stage we got from my church, so those were free. Since my parents are members we were able to use whatever we liked from the church at no cost, so we took advantage of that! For the ceremony music, I hired a local DJ, who also did the wedding reception music.
I asked close family members to do the majority of the details/coordinating for our wedding. My aunt did a lot of assisting with the ceremony and reception and also was a HUGE help to my mom with all the details and any questions she had. She did an AMAZING job!
For the ceremony/reception, I asked another aunt to help out! She took care of telling people when to go during the ceremony and keeping things in line that way. She also helped with the general order of events and details on the big day.
I'm so thankful I had two family members who were so giving of their time to make sure our wedding day ran smoothly and to help us save money!
Cash gifts includes gifts for the pastor, the girls who sang/played guitar, wedding video, wedding planners/people who helped out a ton (aunts, sister in law, etc.), my hair, and a few more people.
And that my friends is the total cost of my wedding! That is still a large amount, so think about all the weddings you've attended... they probably cost way more than what you thought!
If you are planning a wedding on a budget, be sure to check out my excel wedding budget template. An elegant, robust design with built-in calculations and formulas will make keeping a wedding budget a breeze, and even... FUN : )
My biggest piece of advice would be to STOP COMPARING yourself (and your wedding day) to others. Think back on the weddings you have attended- do you remember much about them? If so, what do you remember? Prioritize those things! You don't have to chop the size of your guest list in half just to make your wedding affordable.